Here are brief examples of different rooted injuries:

• Feeling abandoned or dismissed in times of need, whether through physical absence or emotional unavailability, can lead to deep-seated fears of being seen as not enough or unlovable.
• Emotional or physical neglect can create feelings of unworthiness and profound mistrust towards others.
• Unpredictable care can cause confusion and anxiety, making it difficult to form a stable sense of security.

Attachment injuries are deep-rooted and are the source of long-lasting emotional pain. Although unconscious, these injuries are expressed through behaviors and continuously replayed in our intimate relationships, with our children, friends, and in our work environment. The good news is that we can heal, regardless of our early or current life experiences.

To heal, we must go inward and welcome our deepest emotional experiences. The therapeutic process involves understanding the supportive meaning behind our behaviors. Even those that seem maladaptive are attempts to meet our core needs for security and connection. When we look at our past behaviors and what we developed early on to cope with the unmanageable, we begin to experience a flow of self-compassion and self-worth rather than falling into shame or intense regret. This process provides a foundation for healing.

As we heal and move toward secure attachment, we become aware of triggers and patterns in our relationships. Our nervous system learns to be more regulated, and things don’t throw us off so easily. We open our capacity to love, experience greater resilience, and empower ourselves to engage in self-exploration, which also opens doors for experiencing bliss in our sexuality.