Why do we experience recurring struggles in our relationships? And why do traumatic events, such as a physical injury, emotional threat, loss of a loved one, or other life crisis, so often awaken or amplify our sense of fear, anger, isolation, or helplessness?
From our earliest years, we develop an attachment style that follows us through life, replaying in our intimate relationships, with our children, friends, and work environment. A disturbing event can deeply affect that core relational blueprint.
The good news is that we can change, regardless of our early or current life experiences.
As we heal and move toward secure attachment, we become aware of triggers and patterns in our relationships. Our nervous system learns to be more regulated. Things don’t throw us off so easily. And we open our capacity to love and experience greater compassion.
If you are interested to hear more about how your dominant attachment style may play in your relationships, click here.
Evidence-based & collaborative approach
According to research, 70% to 75% of individuals and couples who complete an Emotionally Focused Therapy treatment recover from distress and almost 90% show significant improvement. EFT is an effective form of individual and couples counseling because it goes beyond insights and explanations, it addresses the role that attachment plays in our relationships including the relationship within oneself.
If you are wondering if my approach is a fit for you, click here for contacting me
What to Expect
01 – FIRST STAGES
Through our first sessions, I am taking the time to unpack your reality. These first sessions are fundamental because therapeutic work can only happen if there is a sense of comfort and trust in the room. While learning about you, I assess the situation, the presence of emotional patterns, recurrent challenges and strengths. I call this first stage de-escalation as we are looking to frame and identify the negative cycle that keeps you (and your partner) stuck. At the end of this stage, you are capable to step out of your negative cycle as it happens – express hope – and show openness to your partner or other individuals in your life.
02 – MIDDLE STAGES
During the second stage, you begin to feel the benefits of the therapy. Individuals and couples can now access and engage with their emotional experience. Emotions are no longer foreign or frightening. The focus on this stage is restructuring the bond within oneself or between the partners. Clients describe it as the opening phase through which their fears are no longer triggering. They can be responsive and emotionally engaged with one another in a more natural manner. An inner sense of peace and bonding events mark the transition toward the third stage.
03 – ENDING STAGES
With the need for closeness being restored, clients are consolidating their therapeutic gain. At this point, you enact new positions in your ways of living and engage in constructive cycles with others, including your partner. The end of the final stage is no better described by the ability to turn towards a significant other in time of need with ease and comfort. In addition, couples are offering mutual support to each other and shape new solutions to pragmatic issues.
Specialized with individuals and couples who identify with the following:
- Relationships issues
- Sexual concerns
- Repercussion of traumatic experiences
- Concern with belonging
- Chronique stress /anxiety
- Anger issues
Don’t feel like you fit a particular label?
Here are some of the ways in which these challenges may be showing up
- Feeling bored or unsatisfied in your relationship
- Difficulty attuning to your authentic self
- Difficulty identifying and communicating your needs
- Difficulty expressing yourself
- Feeling used and/or under appreciated
- Feeling of judgement or criticism towards yourself
- Avoiding confrontation
- Rumination or obsessive thinking about future or past
- Feeling like you are never enough
- Feeling overly responsible
- Feeling resentful towards others
- Fear of being judged, rejected, or misunderstood
- Only seeing the negative in yourself/situation
- Feeling stuck
- Disconnection between partners: “my partner prefer sex over affection”
- Difficulty communicating/integrating sexual needs or fantasies
- Difficulty committing to a relationship
- Having unpleasant memories when thinking about sex
- Feeling that sex is a chore
- Difficulty becoming sexually aroused
- Being distracted by other thoughts during sex
- Feeling a general lack of sexual pleasure
- Feeling pressure to experience orgasm
- Experiencing persistent and unwanted arousal
- Having fantasies that cost discomfort or shame
- Keeping sexual secrets from a partner
If you align with any of the above, and ready to step in a journey to live fully and freely, schedule a phone consultation to get started.
Past education, experience and trainings
Masters in Clinical Psychology
UNIVERSITY DU QUEBEC À MONTRÉAL
Bachelor of Arts in Sexology
CENTER FOR PSYCHOLOGY AND INTERPERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Sex as a Safe Adventure: EFT and Sexuality
ICEEFT, DR. SUE JOHNSON
Core Skills Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
ICEEFT, DR. SUE JOHNSON
Externship Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy
ICEEFT, DR. SUE JOHNSON
LEVEL 1&2: Emotionally Focused Therapy for Individuals
SUPERVISION FOR EMOTIONALLY FOCUSED THERAPY
Penney Hartsen, MSW, RCSW
LEVEL 2&3: TRAUMA-INFORMED PRACTICE TRAINING
Alyson Quinn, RCC
1 DAY TRAUMA TRAINING
TELEHEALTH FOR MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS
2 days training by PESI