Sex Therapy for Individual
Sex therapy is a specialized type of psychotherapy where you can address concerns about your sexual functioning, sexual feelings and intimacy. Almost everyone encounters sexual problems at some point in their lives yet many of us endure sexual difficulties because we are too embarrassed to seek help.
A major contributor to sexual concerns comes from societal messages about sex that focus on sexual performance, novelty, and the perfect body image. I want to normalize that inaccurate standard increases the risk of feelings sexually inadequate. Taking for example the duration of an erection, it is biologically expected for a male to ejaculate after 1 minute of penetration. Another controversial subject is related to women orgasms. Vaginal orgasm is not an option available to everyone, and those who do not experience vaginal orgasm are neither more or less mature than those who do. Have you heard about clitoridean orgasm?
Two of the most common sexual motif of consultation are low sexual interest / arousal in women and erectile dysfunction in men. Both of these challenge have the potential to cause feelings of rejection, feelings of inadequacy and performance anxiety. A man or woman can become preoccupied with protecting themselves from these negative feelings, and develop strategies to defend themselves starting by avoiding sex, or being present during sex.
“The smaller we feel in the world, the more we need to shine in the eyes of a partner”
Don’t feel like you fit a particular label?
Here are some of the ways in which these challenges may be showing up
Concerns commonly addressed
- Sexually distressing past or current experiences
- Concerns relate to sexuality
- Psychological & emotional blockages
- Concerns about sexual desire or arousal
- Concerns about sexual interests or sexual orientation
- Impulsive or compulsive sexual desire
What to Expect
01 – FIRST STAGES
Through our first few sessions, I am taking the time to unpack my clients’ reality and motif of consultation gently. These first sessions are fundamental because therapeutic work can only happen if there is a sense of comfort and trust in the room. While learning about my clients, I assess the situation, the presence of emotional patterns, recurrent challenges and clients’ strengths. I call this first stage de-escalation as we are looking to frame and identify the negative cycle that keeps individuals and couples stuck. At the end of this stage, clients begin to recognize their cycle as the enemy of their situation – are capable to step out of the cycle as it happens – express hope – and show openness to their partner or other individuals in their life.
02 – MIDDLE STAGES
During the second stage, clients begin to feel the benefits of the therapy. Individuals and couples can now access and engage with their emotional experience. Emotions are no longer foreign or frightening. The focus on this stage is restructuring the bond within oneself or between the partners. Clients describe it as the opening phase through which their fears are no longer triggering. They can be responsive and emotionally engaged with one another in a more natural manner. An inner sense of peace and bonding events mark the transition toward the third stage.
03 – ENDING STAGES
With the need for closeness being restored, clients are consolidating their therapeutic gain. They enact new positions in their ways of living and engage in constructive cycles with others, including their partner. The end of the final stage is no better to describe by the ability to turn towards a significant other in time of need with ease and comfort. In addition, couples are offering mutual support to each other and shape new solutions to pragmatic issues.
If you align with any of the above, and ready to step in a journey to live fully and freely, schedule a phone consultation to get started.