New parents have unique problems and the shift from being a partner to a parent is not straightforward in any relationship. Dealing with pregnancy, birth, and the months after birth bring stresses of their own that often add to the challenges that already exist between the two parents.
Through our sessions, I will look at your patterns as a couple, how attachment is being disrupted between the two of you, how emotional messages are exchanges and received. Often as a result of this process, a couple may realize that the bigger issue isn’t related to their new reality but to their emotional disconnectedness. With EFT, I can help regain a stronger sense of self and help reorient your relationship towards a place of love and security.
Reaching out to a therapist as a new parent does not mean you have failed as a parent. If anything, it means you are taking necessary steps to ensure the healthiest outcome for your child, your relationship, and your growing family.
“We knew we’d be delighted with our newborn. But we never imagine the impact on our relationship”
Concerns commonly addressed.
- Dealing with shifting roles and expectations of each other
- Sexual issues
- Career roles
- Concerns about equality and responsibilities in the relationship
- Relations with family and in-laws
What to Expect
01 – FIRST STAGES
Through our first few sessions, I am taking the time to unpack my clients’ reality and motif of consultation gently. These first sessions are fundamental because therapeutic work can only happen if there is a sense of comfort and trust in the room. While learning about my clients, I assess the situation, the presence of emotional patterns, recurrent challenges and clients’ strengths. I call this first stage de-escalation as we are looking to frame and identify the negative cycle that keeps individuals and couples stuck. At the end of this stage, clients begin to recognize their cycle as the enemy of their situation – are capable to step out of the cycle as it happens – express hope – and show openness to their partner or other individuals in their life.
02 – MIDDLE STAGES
During the second stage, clients begin to feel the benefits of the therapy. Individuals and couples can now access and engage with their emotional experience. Emotions are no longer foreign or frightening. The focus on this stage is restructuring the bond within oneself or between the partners. Clients describe it as the opening phase through which their fears are no longer triggering. They can be responsive and emotionally engaged with one another in a more natural manner. An inner sense of peace and bonding events mark the transition toward the third stage.
03 – ENDING STAGES
With the need for closeness being restored, clients are consolidating their therapeutic gain. They enact new positions in their ways of living and engage in constructive cycles with others, including their partner. The end of the final stage is no better to describe by the ability to turn towards a significant other in time of need with ease and comfort. In addition, couples are offering mutual support to each other and shape new solutions to pragmatic issues.
If you align with any of the above, and ready to step in a journey to live fully and freely, schedule a phone consultation to get started.